What really matters

In my reading today I got stuck here on this verse. 

Proverbs 31:11 Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value. 

It's that last word...Value. One of my jobs as a mom & wife is to make sure my family has what they need. However, I often get hung up on the details & focus on things that have no real VALUE. I want things just so & when they aren't I very easily fall prey to the compare game. I wish I could make dinner from scratch for my family like so & so. Or why can't I seem to get my house to look nice & put together like theirs. These things are great & I'm still making strides at them, but I have to ask myself, is that what proverbs means when it says....he (my husband) lacks nothing of value? 

The answer is no. The things that really matter are often unseen. The attitude  with which I make dinner, how often I invite Christ to make our house His home, how I use our resources to bless others, the love we share as we live life together, choosing joy even during the mundane tasks (changing diapers & wiping faces & noses isn't always fun), supporting and respecting my husband as he leads our family. This is just a small list but I know that these things definitely have more eternal value than a home cooked meal and a spotless house. 

I need to remember this next time I am tempted to compare myself in areas that really hold little eternal value. 

It's not that God doesn't want me to clean the house, or cook etc. but I shouldn't get so caught up in those things that I loose  sight of what He really values :)

So truth #1: choosing to focus on what has more eternal value does not make me less.